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10 minute self care practice

It’s been a while since I posted, I have always wanted to create a video blog for you so, this weekend, I just created a video blog -it’s raw, authentic and just me speaking from my heart. There’s more to come. Hope you enjoy it. This is one of the practices in my Mummy Manifesto I created for you.

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How can I start a meditation practice?

Do you think of meditation and think you couldn’t do it? It’s not for you, or you just have no idea where to start? Well, this blog post IMG_0220will help you get started.  Most of the time I hear from mums is they don’t have time to meditate with a baby or child running around.  You can start meditating for as little as 1 minute and gradually build up.

Meditation is so important as it helps to calm our nervous system, we become calmer and able to deal with things easily.  Here’s a different way to think of meditation.  Every morning, we brush our teeth and take a shower to wash away the dirt from yesterday, but what about washing away yesterday’s stress?! Do you want to hold onto yesterday’s stress which after a period of time could turn into anxiety, stress and fear? Stress builds up in the body with pain and tightness. We tend to hold onto our stress and tension in our bodies, so by not focusing on our issues, we are just feeding our bodies with  more tension and tightness.  Would you prefer to live in the moment, trust your intuition and be more connected to your body? Making time to meditation and relax each day will help cope far more easily with life’s challenges.

Meditation Benefits

  • Reduced anxiety, tension and stress
  • Pregnancy – alleviate symptoms
  • Increased calm and pleasure
  • Enhanced immune function
  • Increased vitality and energy
  • Stronger connection and bond with baby

Here are my top ways to start meditating with limited time.

Breathing Practice – 1 minute

Start with a breathing practice – just bring focus on your breath – breathe in for a count of 4, hold it, then exhale for a count of 4. Then gradually increase the exhale to 6, 8, then bring it down to 4.  This should take 1 minute.

Walking Mindfulness Practice

Go for a walk. When you walk, take a deep breath with every step and feel the soles of your feet, focus on the sensations of the ground and your surroundings. Use all of your senses – what do you hear? What do you see?

5 Simple steps for developing a meditation practice during pregnancy

Step 1 – Set aside 5-20 minutes of uninterrupted time alone and in silence.  Turn off any distractions.

Step 2 – Sit comfortably with your spine straight and rest your hands on your thighs with your palms facing up

Step 3 – Slowly inhaling through the nose and exhaling through the mouth. Feeling a deep relaxation after every breath. You might want to use a mantra (word) on each inhalation and exhalation.  For example, if you want to feel more calm, on every inhalation breathe in calm and on every exhalation breathe out stress. Do this several times.

Step 4 – Repeat the breathing exercise for 5 minutes

Step 5 – Visualise your baby in your belly and imagine them happy and free.  Imagine a golden white light around your heart, send them your love, imagine your baby surrounded by the beautiful light of your love.  You can use this opportunity to send them a message or a vision of the life they are entering.

Breastfeeding

Use your breastfeeding of your baby as your meditation practice, think of it as a mindfulness and awareness practice.

Guided Meditations

There are so many guided meditations, which I love and it is how I started to practice meditating.  I will also be posting some guided meditations in the coming montths, so stay tuned for these. 

Did you like the post? Do you meditate? What will you take away from this?

 

 

 

How to React From a Place of LOVE

fear to loveWe have the opportunity to live a happy life filled with miracles, love and joy. So, what holds us back? Well, when we place judgments or try to control outcomes or situations it results into What gets in the way is our fear, limiting beliefs, attachments, judgements, guilt preventing us from shining our light so bright so we can create the life we want, be a mindful and patient mother, and create more miracles and moments that make us smile.  People in our lives, including moments are actually the greatest teachers. 

There are things that may frustrate us to the point where it pushes our buttons and we start to react from a negative and fearful place.  It then becomes a habit until we forget to connect within and connect with our hearts.   I have experienced moments like this during the week where my son has been pushing my buttons.  The surge of emotions move through your body so quickly to the point you can’t stop on time to react in a more loving and connected way.  I am sure you can all resonate with experiences where your child, husband or loved one has pushed your buttons and you have reacted in a way that has made you feel terrible afterwards.  

After moments of reacting from a dark and fearful place sometimes it is something we have experienced in our own lives as children which makes us react a certain way because it was built in from memory.  When you think about it is just a memory, a story from the past it is history because what matters is the present moment, because every moment is an opportunity to make a change for the better by reacting in a different way. 

To create more miracles and flow in your life, you need to let go of the fear, attachments, guilt and the need to control outcomes or situations.  You need to recognise this is all the ego perceptions coming through and trying to take control of your body.  Let love take over instead and react from a loving place and then watch what happens in your life. You will notice more miracles, more love, more compassion and more of what you want. Also, react the way you want to be treated if you were in the other position. Next time your child reacts in a way and you start to notice a surge of emotions to the point of reacting from a fearful way, try these steps:

  1. Close your eyes and sit in a comfortable position
  2. Take a few deep breaths in the belly – as you inhale, your belly expands and as you exhale, pull your belly towards your spine, emptying your lungs
  3. Bring your awareness and attention to your heart space
  4. Imagine a beautiful white light surrounding your heart
  5. Visualise the person who is pushing your buttons and send them love and light – imagine them surrounded by the beautiful white light around your heart

This practice will help calm you down and react differently.  If you can’t do this full practice, just try some deep belly breathing and that will help you react differently.

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Namaste x

My letter to a new mum

You have just been on the biggest transformation of your life in your pregnancy, now you are a new mum – congratulations! It’s such an amazing journey. There will be times where you just want to cry, but the rewards outweigh the frustrations.  You will feel exhausted, emotional and you may even start to worry about returning to work. You may start feeling depressed or suffer from anxiety.  BUT there are so many rewards, the first smile, the first time they look at you. Ahhh I remember those first moments, like it was only yesterday, now my son is 6 years old.

The one thing I wish I did when I became a new mum was to enjoy every single moment. Being present in each and every moment is the biggest gift of all.  These moments, even though they sound frustrating and stressful, they are just moments in our life. Your baby will grow, and move onto the next stage and before you know it they are at big school and not wanting to cuddle their mummy in public.newmumrecovery476x290.jpg.aspx

Trust your intuition – don’t listen to friends or family who place judgements on the way you should be mothering. Listen to your heart and follow your intuition – it’s always right.

Don’t worry too much.  Remember everything will always work out.  You may start to worry that you are losing your identity of who you were before you became a mother. I know this all too well. I started lose myself as a new mum. I didn’t know who I was anymore. I knew I needed to do something to make a difference by helping mums and serving others – that’s why I created MummaBliss.

Take time out for yourself. Make sure you spend 10 minutes per day to yourself doing something that feels good for you. Self-care practices are important to make sure you nurture the nurturer. Check out Daily Self-care for all mums. By doing this, you will have more energy to be a loving mother, wife, daughter, sister and friend.  Don’t feel guilty for taking some time out to yourself – it’s important. Always put yourself first.  Be gentle on yourself. Practice a heart breathing and meditation on a daily basis:

Bring your awareness up to the centre of your chest – to your Heart – your chakra of self-development and unconditional love or also called Anahata. Gently breathe into your Heart, letting it soften and expand on your breath. Invite the colour green. Bathe your heart centre with nourishment, renewal, healing. Say the words “I am loved”. “I am love” “I allow myself to give and receive love freely”“I am nourished by the power of love”. Practice this everyday for 40 days and notice miracles flow into your life, especially more love and more love for yourself.

I recently created a Mummy Manifesto, which is everything I believe in to be a happy, present and mindful mum. Here’s some of the quotes from the Mummy Manifesto – pin it up on your fridge as a good reminder.  I would love to hear your thoughts on the Mummy Manifesto. I poured my heart and soul into this project. It is something that I am very passionate about and believe it is the secret to motherhood. 
Begin your day with gratitude and love
Set a daily intention
Trust your intuition
List 3 things to be grateful for before bed
Be patient
Connect with your body
Spend 10 mins per day on yourself
Please tell me your thoughts. Did this resonate with you as a new mum?

My Top 3 Tips for Busting Through Blocks

Are you feeling blocked and disconnected? Do you feel out of the flow? Are you noticing a lot of your fears and stress creeping up and stopping you from living to your fullest potential. Are you noticing yourself feeling needy, judgmental or trying to control situations?  Do you want to know how to create more miracles in your life? 

The secret to busting through the blocks is simple:

1.  Start with the “F word” as Gabrielle Bernstein calls it. The “F Word” isn’t what you think. Forgiveness is the key to start creating miracles in your life.  Once you start forgiving yourself and others in your life, you will create more miracles, more flow, more of what you want.  If you notice yourself being judgmental or attacking others, simply forgive yourself by saying “I forgive myself for speaking badly about X, I am willing to let it go and choose love instead.”  By doing this practice, you will start to create more miracles.

2. Choose Love over Fear.  Be willing to notice your fears. Write down a list of your top 10 fears.  Why are you fearing those things on your list?  Have they been around in your life for a while? Normally, some of our fears are a result from childhood or our beliefs. Just remember fears and stress are just an illusion.  It isn’t real.  Each time you choose love instead of fear is a miracle. Look at your fears differently.

3. Be Willing to Change Your Perception. Be willing to let go of your fears to the universe. Choose love instead. Be willing to change your perception of your fears. Can you look at your fears differently? Start tuning into your intuition and listen to your heart.  Start being grateful for your areas in your life which might seem daunting or scary right now. In every difficult life situation there’s a lesson. There’s something for us to learn so we can grow and get through these times a lot easier next time.

If you follow this practice everyday for the next 40 days, you will start to see a lot of miracles in your life. The things that have been difficult before, will become easier.  Everything will just feel and seem easier. 

Post a comment below if this resonated with you or if you have your own practice to create miracles in your life.

 

 

 

 

 

Mummy Manifesto

My gift to you – MUMMY MANIFESTO.  It’s everything I believe in or practice as a mum. I want to share it with you. Perhaps pin it up on your fridge as a great reminder.

Mummy Manifesto

Enjoy and post a comment below.

A poem + meditation practice

Today is the day I embrace change

I begin my day with gratitude, love, meditation and intention

I am willing to see the truth about me

I’m willing to let go of fear, stress and self-doubt

I choose to live in the moment and be present

I choose to ground through my feet and tune into my intuition

I choose to be connected to my body and be happy

I choose to love myself again and lead with my heart and not my head

I am love. I am abundance. I am authentic. I am worthy. I am patient. I am connected. I am creative. I am kind.

I’m loving my body and my new attitude.

I wrote this poem because of how I was feeling inside. I noticed after 4 days without my regular meditation practice I was feeling out of alignment, disconnected to my body and living from the ego and fear based thoughts which caused me to not take care of myself and instead talk negatively to myself with unloving words.  I felt unworthy of anything. I felt confused.  I woke-up today. I choose to embrace change and tune myself back into my body and listen to my intuition.  I don’t want to live from ego, I love feeling connected and balanced. 

Meditation is so important as it helps to calm our nervous system, we become calmer and able to deal with things easily.  Here’s a different way to think of meditation.  Every morning, we brush our teeth and take a shower to wash away the dirt from yesterday, but what about washing away yesterday’s stress?! Do you want to hold onto yesterday’s stress which after a period of time could turn into anxiety, stress and fear? Stress builds up in the body with pain and tightness. We tend to hold onto our stress and tension in our bodies, so by not focusing on our issues, we are just feeding our bodies with  more tension and tightness.  Would you prefer to live in the moment, trust your intuition and be more connected to your body? Making time to meditation and relax each day will help cope far more easily with life’s challenges.

I needed to experience what I experienced over the last four days because at least I know how to get myself back in alignment. I need to keep up my morning routine which includes meditation.  In Kundalini Yoga, it is suggested you pick a practice and stick to it for 40 days. I am actually going to increase it twice-a-day instead of once. I don’t want to go to sleep with the days’ stresses. I want to let it go so I can sleep more soundly and wake up feeling rested without any stress in my body.  It’s just like brushing your teeth or having a shower, you want to get rid of the dirt, but in meditation we are just getting connected, present and alleviating any stress in the body. 

“Meditation brings wisdom; lack of meditation leaves ignorance. Know well what leads you forward and what holds you back, and choose the path that leads to wisdom,” Gautama Buddha

So, what meditation practice should you choose if you are new to meditation? There are so many meditation albums to choose from it’s hard to determine what will be best for you.  Over the next few weeks, I am going to introduce you to different meditations and breathing practices you can try at homePick a practice and stick to it for 40 days. I would love to know how the practice goes for you over on the Facebook page.  Feel free to leave a comment with any questions and I will respond within 24 hours. 

My mission is to help provide you with strategies and tools to get you connected to your body, live in the moment and be radiantly happy.  I want to make a difference in the world.  By letting go of suffering, busting through blocks that stop us from creating flow, you can create more flow in life and more of what you want.You will be happier, your kids and partner will be happier. It’s all about nurturing the nurturer. 

 

Create a FEEL GOOD playlist

I am having a relaxing day at home listening to Florence and the Machine and it got me thinking I need a FEEL GOOD playlist, something to listen to when I am feeling out of wack, or just need a good pick me-up.

How to create a FEEL GOOD playlist?

  • What music lifts you up?
  • What songs make you feel good?
  • What songs make you happy or put a smile on your face?

Create playlist of Spotify and play it anytime you need it.

This is what I have on my playlist

  • Shake it Off – Florence and the Machine
  • What a Feeling – Irene Cara
  • Girl on Fire – Alicia Keys
  • Superwoman – Alicia Keys
  • Like a Prayer – Madonna
  • Ray of Light – Madonna
  • I Shall Believe – Sheryl Crow
  • Bathe in these Waters – Donna De Lory
  • Prayer for St Francis – Sarah McLachlan
  • Firework – Katy Perry
  • Xanadu – Olivia Newton John

I am constantly growing my playlist, it’s always changing.

I love listening to all of these songs when I start to feel myself out of flow.

Post a comment below with your playlist.

 

 

 

How to become more present in daily life

I get often asked for tips on becoming more present in day-to-day life.  I used to be a person that lived in my head continuously, looking externally for answers instead of looking into my own inner wisdom for answers.  As I became more present in day-to-day life and interactions with people, I noticed I was looking for answers externally. Instead, I was more in tune with my heart, my intuition which was where I held my true desires on how I wanted to live my life.

Answer the following questions:

  • How do you want to feel when you wake-up in the morning?
  • How do you want to feel as a mum?
  • How do you want to feel when you go to bed at night?
  • How do you want to feel everyday in your life?
  • How do you want to spend every moment?
  • How would it feel to be more present in your life?
  • What would change in your life if you were more present?

Now, in order to become more present in your day-to-day life, you need to understand how you want to feel. If you want to feel more present, you need to do regular practices that will help ground you to become present.  You can’t get stuck into the stories, especially driven by the ego.  The ego will always try to control situations and get you  unstuck. You need to tune into your heart by bringing your awareness to your heart chakra.

My favourite way to get present is to ground through my feet, I bring my awareness and attention to the inside of the soles of my feet. I keep bringing my awareness until I feel the tingling sensation, which is just energy moving through your body to the soles of your feet. You can direct this energy to anywhere in your body by bringing your awareness and attention to that body part.

Tips on applying this practice in a everday basis:

  • Set an alarm on your phone every hour to remind you to bring your awareness and attention to your feet
  • Have the word present throughout your house and workplace to remind you
  • Create a vision board with the word present and images that represent the word

How would your life be different if you became more present in  your life? What would change? Post a comment in the comments below and also how you will bring this to life in your own life to become more present.

A new weekly planner to get you organised

Well, my son has been in school for over a month now and I have so many things to remember every week from news day, sports day, library day, homework due, mufti day and the list goes on and I just can’t keep track of everything that I need to do for him and I thought I would create a weekly planner to help myself and also help other mums out there.  So, here it is my new Weekly Planner to help you get organised for the week.

It includes:

  • Keep track of family appointments and school reminders
  • Self care / wellness planning
  • Meal planning / errands
  • Things to do for the week ahead
  • Focus on how you want to feel

Enjoy the planner.  I would love to hear from you, post a comment below.

 

 

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