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April 2013 archive

How Being Patient Made Me a Better Mother

“The practice of patience guards us against losing our presence of mind. It enables us to remain undisturbed, even when the situation is really difficult. It gives us a certain amount of inner peace, which allows us some self-control, so that we can choose to respond to situations in an appropriate and compassionate manner, rather than being driven by our disturbing emotions.” Dali Lama

This quote from the Dali Lama resonated with me on so many levels because it got me thinking about how my son has taught me one of my greatest lessons – to be more patient and present.  Parenting has been the biggest spiritual awakening for me.  I have learned so much about myself looking through his eyes.

When I became pregnant with my son, I was so overjoyed and I couldn’t wait to have him in my life.  Throughout my pregnancy I would wish for the next trimester, and wish for him to come out. Then when he was born I couldn’t wait for the next milestone, and the one after that. Now, looking back, five years later I rushed through my journey into motherhood.  I was always thinking about what I had to do next, crossing things off the to do list. What matters most was spending quality time with him and really being there. Being fully present and patient and just enjoying the moments is what I should have practiced as entered my journey into motherhood. Instead I was driven by disturbing emotions that came up for me, I lost my patience and I felt vulnerable and uncomfortable.

My son DJ who I love to bits

My son DJ who I love to bits

I have also learned that I need to learn to connect with DJ’s divine essence. He is such a beautiful boy.  I need to open my eyes more, stop thinking so much about the future and the past.  Stay present.  Enjoy the moments. He won’t be a child forever.

Children grow up quickly and they won’t be children forever, so we really need to enjoy the time we have with them and make sure we teach them lessons to help them grow into amazing beings that will make a difference in the world.  I am so grateful for having my son, he is happy and healthy and makes me smile everyday.  Here are some tips that I have implemented in my own life to become more patient.

Tips To Help You Become More Patient and Present

1. Accept yourself as you are in this moment

2. Don’t rush, slow down

3. Practice gratitude. Write down a list of things you are grateful for at the end of each day.

4. Practice love and kindness

5. Forgive

6. Remember to breathe

7. Allow stillness – start a meditation practice

8. Practice yoga

Post a comment below on your biggest lesson in becoming a mum or what you will takeaway after reading this blog post to implement in your own life as a mum. 

Thank you for reading this blog post.

Namaste xx