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July 2014 archive

How can I start a meditation practice?

Do you think of meditation and think you couldn’t do it? It’s not for you, or you just have no idea where to start? Well, this blog post IMG_0220will help you get started.  Most of the time I hear from mums is they don’t have time to meditate with a baby or child running around.  You can start meditating for as little as 1 minute and gradually build up.

Meditation is so important as it helps to calm our nervous system, we become calmer and able to deal with things easily.  Here’s a different way to think of meditation.  Every morning, we brush our teeth and take a shower to wash away the dirt from yesterday, but what about washing away yesterday’s stress?! Do you want to hold onto yesterday’s stress which after a period of time could turn into anxiety, stress and fear? Stress builds up in the body with pain and tightness. We tend to hold onto our stress and tension in our bodies, so by not focusing on our issues, we are just feeding our bodies with  more tension and tightness.  Would you prefer to live in the moment, trust your intuition and be more connected to your body? Making time to meditation and relax each day will help cope far more easily with life’s challenges.

Meditation Benefits

  • Reduced anxiety, tension and stress
  • Pregnancy – alleviate symptoms
  • Increased calm and pleasure
  • Enhanced immune function
  • Increased vitality and energy
  • Stronger connection and bond with baby

Here are my top ways to start meditating with limited time.

Breathing Practice – 1 minute

Start with a breathing practice – just bring focus on your breath – breathe in for a count of 4, hold it, then exhale for a count of 4. Then gradually increase the exhale to 6, 8, then bring it down to 4.  This should take 1 minute.

Walking Mindfulness Practice

Go for a walk. When you walk, take a deep breath with every step and feel the soles of your feet, focus on the sensations of the ground and your surroundings. Use all of your senses – what do you hear? What do you see?

5 Simple steps for developing a meditation practice during pregnancy

Step 1 – Set aside 5-20 minutes of uninterrupted time alone and in silence.  Turn off any distractions.

Step 2 – Sit comfortably with your spine straight and rest your hands on your thighs with your palms facing up

Step 3 – Slowly inhaling through the nose and exhaling through the mouth. Feeling a deep relaxation after every breath. You might want to use a mantra (word) on each inhalation and exhalation.  For example, if you want to feel more calm, on every inhalation breathe in calm and on every exhalation breathe out stress. Do this several times.

Step 4 – Repeat the breathing exercise for 5 minutes

Step 5 – Visualise your baby in your belly and imagine them happy and free.  Imagine a golden white light around your heart, send them your love, imagine your baby surrounded by the beautiful light of your love.  You can use this opportunity to send them a message or a vision of the life they are entering.

Breastfeeding

Use your breastfeeding of your baby as your meditation practice, think of it as a mindfulness and awareness practice.

Guided Meditations

There are so many guided meditations, which I love and it is how I started to practice meditating.  I will also be posting some guided meditations in the coming montths, so stay tuned for these. 

Did you like the post? Do you meditate? What will you take away from this?

 

 

 

How to React From a Place of LOVE

fear to loveWe have the opportunity to live a happy life filled with miracles, love and joy. So, what holds us back? Well, when we place judgments or try to control outcomes or situations it results into What gets in the way is our fear, limiting beliefs, attachments, judgements, guilt preventing us from shining our light so bright so we can create the life we want, be a mindful and patient mother, and create more miracles and moments that make us smile.  People in our lives, including moments are actually the greatest teachers. 

There are things that may frustrate us to the point where it pushes our buttons and we start to react from a negative and fearful place.  It then becomes a habit until we forget to connect within and connect with our hearts.   I have experienced moments like this during the week where my son has been pushing my buttons.  The surge of emotions move through your body so quickly to the point you can’t stop on time to react in a more loving and connected way.  I am sure you can all resonate with experiences where your child, husband or loved one has pushed your buttons and you have reacted in a way that has made you feel terrible afterwards.  

After moments of reacting from a dark and fearful place sometimes it is something we have experienced in our own lives as children which makes us react a certain way because it was built in from memory.  When you think about it is just a memory, a story from the past it is history because what matters is the present moment, because every moment is an opportunity to make a change for the better by reacting in a different way. 

To create more miracles and flow in your life, you need to let go of the fear, attachments, guilt and the need to control outcomes or situations.  You need to recognise this is all the ego perceptions coming through and trying to take control of your body.  Let love take over instead and react from a loving place and then watch what happens in your life. You will notice more miracles, more love, more compassion and more of what you want. Also, react the way you want to be treated if you were in the other position. Next time your child reacts in a way and you start to notice a surge of emotions to the point of reacting from a fearful way, try these steps:

  1. Close your eyes and sit in a comfortable position
  2. Take a few deep breaths in the belly – as you inhale, your belly expands and as you exhale, pull your belly towards your spine, emptying your lungs
  3. Bring your awareness and attention to your heart space
  4. Imagine a beautiful white light surrounding your heart
  5. Visualise the person who is pushing your buttons and send them love and light – imagine them surrounded by the beautiful white light around your heart

This practice will help calm you down and react differently.  If you can’t do this full practice, just try some deep belly breathing and that will help you react differently.

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Namaste x

My letter to a new mum

You have just been on the biggest transformation of your life in your pregnancy, now you are a new mum – congratulations! It’s such an amazing journey. There will be times where you just want to cry, but the rewards outweigh the frustrations.  You will feel exhausted, emotional and you may even start to worry about returning to work. You may start feeling depressed or suffer from anxiety.  BUT there are so many rewards, the first smile, the first time they look at you. Ahhh I remember those first moments, like it was only yesterday, now my son is 6 years old.

The one thing I wish I did when I became a new mum was to enjoy every single moment. Being present in each and every moment is the biggest gift of all.  These moments, even though they sound frustrating and stressful, they are just moments in our life. Your baby will grow, and move onto the next stage and before you know it they are at big school and not wanting to cuddle their mummy in public.newmumrecovery476x290.jpg.aspx

Trust your intuition – don’t listen to friends or family who place judgements on the way you should be mothering. Listen to your heart and follow your intuition – it’s always right.

Don’t worry too much.  Remember everything will always work out.  You may start to worry that you are losing your identity of who you were before you became a mother. I know this all too well. I started lose myself as a new mum. I didn’t know who I was anymore. I knew I needed to do something to make a difference by helping mums and serving others – that’s why I created MummaBliss.

Take time out for yourself. Make sure you spend 10 minutes per day to yourself doing something that feels good for you. Self-care practices are important to make sure you nurture the nurturer. Check out Daily Self-care for all mums. By doing this, you will have more energy to be a loving mother, wife, daughter, sister and friend.  Don’t feel guilty for taking some time out to yourself – it’s important. Always put yourself first.  Be gentle on yourself. Practice a heart breathing and meditation on a daily basis:

Bring your awareness up to the centre of your chest – to your Heart – your chakra of self-development and unconditional love or also called Anahata. Gently breathe into your Heart, letting it soften and expand on your breath. Invite the colour green. Bathe your heart centre with nourishment, renewal, healing. Say the words “I am loved”. “I am love” “I allow myself to give and receive love freely”“I am nourished by the power of love”. Practice this everyday for 40 days and notice miracles flow into your life, especially more love and more love for yourself.

I recently created a Mummy Manifesto, which is everything I believe in to be a happy, present and mindful mum. Here’s some of the quotes from the Mummy Manifesto – pin it up on your fridge as a good reminder.  I would love to hear your thoughts on the Mummy Manifesto. I poured my heart and soul into this project. It is something that I am very passionate about and believe it is the secret to motherhood. 
Begin your day with gratitude and love
Set a daily intention
Trust your intuition
List 3 things to be grateful for before bed
Be patient
Connect with your body
Spend 10 mins per day on yourself
Please tell me your thoughts. Did this resonate with you as a new mum?