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Practicing the art of forgiveness

Forgiveness prepares us for end of suffering it also requires us to refrain from judging others and surrendering ourselves by lettinimagesg it go.  When we let go of the fear and choose to forgive, we create a shift in our perceptions and create more miracles in our life.

Ask yourself what do you have to learn from the experience? What do you need to forgive? Maybe you need to forgive yourself.  Holding onto grudges for past hurts can only cause more suffering.  We carry thoughts of hatred because we blame others for bad things happening to us.  We refuse to accept what is happening to us, the way we process the behaviour of others. The other person shouldn’t be to blame, it’s the way we have reacted to the experience which is causing us suffering.

So, how can you forgive when the pain is so deep and you were so hurt by the experience?  Firstly, trust that you can forgive.  Don’t resist it, surrender to the experience and let it go.  Be grateful for the experience. What can you learn from the experience of forgiving someone for something that has hurt you?

By making the first steps to forgiveness you will feel liberated and free from the prison we have created within ourselves.  By mastering the art of forgiveness we can create more miracles in our life.  Forgive yourself more importantly for holding onto the grudges or past pain.  Learn from your mistakes.  The only way you will be free from suffering and live your life to its fullest potential is if you start mastering the art of forgiveness.

To forgive is to remove the anger, judgements and bitterness to create more space for love, compassion and kindness.  By doing this you experience more freedom in your life by opening up your heart.

Take out your journal and answer the following questions:

1. Who do you need to forgive?

2. What is the lesson from this experience of past hurt?

How to forgive?

List your top 5 grudges or past pains where you need to forgive. Say the following words out loud to yourself
This fear is not serving me, I forgive and choose love instead. 

Write a self-forgiveness letter to yourself, but instead of focusing on the negative side of the past pain, fill it with love and compassion and what you have learned from the experience.

Use this affirmation from Gabrielle Bernstein’s May Cause Miracles:

I forgive myself for choosing fear. Today I choose love instead.

 

 

 

I would love to hear how you went with the exercises, please post a comment below or on the Facebook page.

 

 

 

Daily Practice: Self-care for all mums

So, what is self care? Well it is about taking care of yourself and remembering that a happy mum will have a happy familIMG_0220y.  As mums we need to nurture the nurturer in order to have the energy to be there for our family.  In my prenatal yoga classes on Sunday, I have been giving my students a home practice each week which is different around self-care.  My goal with this practice is to get them used to taking care of themselves before baby is born so when baby arrives, they allocate time to themselves in a way that resonates with them.

When we take the time to reconnect with ourselves, we learn to let go of the things we can’t control, we become authentic, and gentle with ourselves.  Here are two self-care practices you can incorporate into your daily life.

For me personally, I will be honest, this took me a while to get the hang of. I would always find an excuse for not taking time out to myself doing something that made me feel alive and connected to my body.  Finding the right practice to incorporate into  your life is also something that you need to tap into your intuition to understand what is the right practice to do.  I have included two practices below which you could use, and I will start posting daily practices on the website on various ways to reconnect with yourself and create more bliss in your life.

1.  Spend 10 minutes to yourself everyday – do a practice of being kind to yourself.

Here’s a few examples:

  • Bubble bath
  • Meditation
  • Yoga
  • Read a book
  • Go to the shops
  • Go to a cafe and spoil yourself to a yummy treat
  • Go to the park
  • Bring your awareness to your feet and become present in your body.

Do what works for you, you will know the right thing for you. Trust your intuition and enjoy the process.  The only rule to this – you need to do this practice without your partner or children. It is purely for you.

“Be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars. In the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul.” ~Max Ehrmann

2. Set your alarm every hour to do something that resonates with you, here are some examples:

  • Ground through your feet by sending your awareness and attention to the soles of your feet
  • Connect with baby
  • Do some deep breathing

I will start posting several daily pratices you can incorporate into your daily life.

Have a beautiful day.

Namaste xx

 

How Being Patient Made Me a Better Mother

“The practice of patience guards us against losing our presence of mind. It enables us to remain undisturbed, even when the situation is really difficult. It gives us a certain amount of inner peace, which allows us some self-control, so that we can choose to respond to situations in an appropriate and compassionate manner, rather than being driven by our disturbing emotions.” Dali Lama

This quote from the Dali Lama resonated with me on so many levels because it got me thinking about how my son has taught me one of my greatest lessons – to be more patient and present.  Parenting has been the biggest spiritual awakening for me.  I have learned so much about myself looking through his eyes.

When I became pregnant with my son, I was so overjoyed and I couldn’t wait to have him in my life.  Throughout my pregnancy I would wish for the next trimester, and wish for him to come out. Then when he was born I couldn’t wait for the next milestone, and the one after that. Now, looking back, five years later I rushed through my journey into motherhood.  I was always thinking about what I had to do next, crossing things off the to do list. What matters most was spending quality time with him and really being there. Being fully present and patient and just enjoying the moments is what I should have practiced as entered my journey into motherhood. Instead I was driven by disturbing emotions that came up for me, I lost my patience and I felt vulnerable and uncomfortable.

My son DJ who I love to bits

My son DJ who I love to bits

I have also learned that I need to learn to connect with DJ’s divine essence. He is such a beautiful boy.  I need to open my eyes more, stop thinking so much about the future and the past.  Stay present.  Enjoy the moments. He won’t be a child forever.

Children grow up quickly and they won’t be children forever, so we really need to enjoy the time we have with them and make sure we teach them lessons to help them grow into amazing beings that will make a difference in the world.  I am so grateful for having my son, he is happy and healthy and makes me smile everyday.  Here are some tips that I have implemented in my own life to become more patient.

Tips To Help You Become More Patient and Present

1. Accept yourself as you are in this moment

2. Don’t rush, slow down

3. Practice gratitude. Write down a list of things you are grateful for at the end of each day.

4. Practice love and kindness

5. Forgive

6. Remember to breathe

7. Allow stillness – start a meditation practice

8. Practice yoga

Post a comment below on your biggest lesson in becoming a mum or what you will takeaway after reading this blog post to implement in your own life as a mum. 

Thank you for reading this blog post.

Namaste xx

 

5 Tips to Being a Mindful Parent

Did you know that we think of 70,000 thoughts per day?  When I first heard this I was astounded by the figure but then I monitored what I thought for a day and I could see how it could equate to that amount. We live such busy lives and often forget about living in the moment, becoming more mindful.

 

So, what is mindfulness? It’s simply bringing awareness to the present moment without judgement.  I thoroughly recommend watching the movie (or read the book) ‘Way of the Peaceful Warrior’ by Dan MacMillan.

Below are my 5 sure tips to being a mindful parent:

  1. Don’t rush. Next time you are giving your child a bath, don’t look at the clock. Take the time to sit with them and play with their toys or talk to them about their day.  Don’t bring your phone with you. Simply be there for them.
  2. Be present.  Simply be there for your child, listen intently and when you are spending time with them.  Be fully present with your child.
  3. Be patient.  Maybe your child isn’t achieving milestones quick enough or they do something that upsets you.  Next time this happens, close your eyes and take a few deep breaths.
  4. You are their teacher.  They will take on your beliefs and habits into their adult life. Think about what you say before you say it.  They are learning from you.  Be the best teacher you can be so they can have the best start in life.
  5. Have fun.  When was the last time you actually sat down on the floor with your child and played with their toys or got out a game to play?  Spend some time with your child and have quality time and fun.  I know this is hard, I am a mother too. I try to at least make time to read books before my son goes to bed to give him some solid time with just me, even if it is just cuddles on the lounge :)

Remember, being present means shifting your awareness to the present moment. Forget about what happened yesterday or the day or what’s happening tomorrow. It’s about NOW.

Leave a comment below with what gets in your way of spending quality time (completely present) with your children? What distractions get in your way? ie. Social media, cooking, chores, work, checking emails?

Stay tuned for future blog posts on how to create self-care practices during your pregnancy or as a new mum so you have more energy to give your child your fullest attention and presence.

Love

Michelle xx

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