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Happy New Year

Happy New Year!!

Have you started off this year already in a state of overwhelm, perhaps taking on habits from 2014 into 2015 and getting upset with yourself? Are you putting yourself down or going through a state of eating too much which is causing you to feel down on yourself and react from a non-loving way? In January, fear-based thoughts can tend to creep into our thoughts because we start to evaluate where we are in our lives and why we haven’t achieved what we wanted or perhaps why we are still stuck in an emotional rollercoaster of stress and anxiety. 

Does this sound familiar? I know personally, every January I tend to go through this process. From eating too much or going back into negative thinking because I haven’t done all I wanted to do, so it limits me from reaching my full potential and creates blocks.  So how do we move on from these blocks we have created in our life? It’s a simple shift in perception from fear to love.  All you need to do is change your thoughts, and you will change your reality so if you are continually thinking I am not good enough, I don’t like my body or I don’t have any money, change the way you perceive the situation or you will just create more lack in your life.  Sounds simple right? It really is.  Just make a commitment to see things differently and the universe will provide for you.  Sometimes placing trust in something like the universe can be difficult if you are in a state of rock bottom or you just haven’t experienced miracles in your life.   Start feeling more love to yourself and others, and even your bank account even if it is only showing $0.  The more love you show each area in your life, will create more flow.  Think about what you are saying, your words are creating your reality just like your thoughts.  What are you saying to your kids? What are you saying to your loved ones? More importantly, what are you saying to yourself? What’s your inner dialogue? Is it loving or fear based?

Start with some little steps, one step at a time. Focus on one area in your life where you are in lack or finding things difficult.  So, for instance, if you want a better body, start having a better relationship with your body by treating it better and nourishing it with foods and exercise which will make you feel joy.  OR start celebrating the money you have in the bank account, even if there is only $0, just feel good about it.  Hope you found this post useful, feel free to post a comment below. I would love to know how you shifted your perception from fear to love in areas of your life.

 

 

 

 

How to React From a Place of LOVE

fear to loveWe have the opportunity to live a happy life filled with miracles, love and joy. So, what holds us back? Well, when we place judgments or try to control outcomes or situations it results into What gets in the way is our fear, limiting beliefs, attachments, judgements, guilt preventing us from shining our light so bright so we can create the life we want, be a mindful and patient mother, and create more miracles and moments that make us smile.  People in our lives, including moments are actually the greatest teachers. 

There are things that may frustrate us to the point where it pushes our buttons and we start to react from a negative and fearful place.  It then becomes a habit until we forget to connect within and connect with our hearts.   I have experienced moments like this during the week where my son has been pushing my buttons.  The surge of emotions move through your body so quickly to the point you can’t stop on time to react in a more loving and connected way.  I am sure you can all resonate with experiences where your child, husband or loved one has pushed your buttons and you have reacted in a way that has made you feel terrible afterwards.  

After moments of reacting from a dark and fearful place sometimes it is something we have experienced in our own lives as children which makes us react a certain way because it was built in from memory.  When you think about it is just a memory, a story from the past it is history because what matters is the present moment, because every moment is an opportunity to make a change for the better by reacting in a different way. 

To create more miracles and flow in your life, you need to let go of the fear, attachments, guilt and the need to control outcomes or situations.  You need to recognise this is all the ego perceptions coming through and trying to take control of your body.  Let love take over instead and react from a loving place and then watch what happens in your life. You will notice more miracles, more love, more compassion and more of what you want. Also, react the way you want to be treated if you were in the other position. Next time your child reacts in a way and you start to notice a surge of emotions to the point of reacting from a fearful way, try these steps:

  1. Close your eyes and sit in a comfortable position
  2. Take a few deep breaths in the belly – as you inhale, your belly expands and as you exhale, pull your belly towards your spine, emptying your lungs
  3. Bring your awareness and attention to your heart space
  4. Imagine a beautiful white light surrounding your heart
  5. Visualise the person who is pushing your buttons and send them love and light – imagine them surrounded by the beautiful white light around your heart

This practice will help calm you down and react differently.  If you can’t do this full practice, just try some deep belly breathing and that will help you react differently.

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Namaste x

My Top 3 Tips for Busting Through Blocks

Are you feeling blocked and disconnected? Do you feel out of the flow? Are you noticing a lot of your fears and stress creeping up and stopping you from living to your fullest potential. Are you noticing yourself feeling needy, judgmental or trying to control situations?  Do you want to know how to create more miracles in your life? 

The secret to busting through the blocks is simple:

1.  Start with the “F word” as Gabrielle Bernstein calls it. The “F Word” isn’t what you think. Forgiveness is the key to start creating miracles in your life.  Once you start forgiving yourself and others in your life, you will create more miracles, more flow, more of what you want.  If you notice yourself being judgmental or attacking others, simply forgive yourself by saying “I forgive myself for speaking badly about X, I am willing to let it go and choose love instead.”  By doing this practice, you will start to create more miracles.

2. Choose Love over Fear.  Be willing to notice your fears. Write down a list of your top 10 fears.  Why are you fearing those things on your list?  Have they been around in your life for a while? Normally, some of our fears are a result from childhood or our beliefs. Just remember fears and stress are just an illusion.  It isn’t real.  Each time you choose love instead of fear is a miracle. Look at your fears differently.

3. Be Willing to Change Your Perception. Be willing to let go of your fears to the universe. Choose love instead. Be willing to change your perception of your fears. Can you look at your fears differently? Start tuning into your intuition and listen to your heart.  Start being grateful for your areas in your life which might seem daunting or scary right now. In every difficult life situation there’s a lesson. There’s something for us to learn so we can grow and get through these times a lot easier next time.

If you follow this practice everyday for the next 40 days, you will start to see a lot of miracles in your life. The things that have been difficult before, will become easier.  Everything will just feel and seem easier. 

Post a comment below if this resonated with you or if you have your own practice to create miracles in your life.

 

 

 

 

 

Practicing the art of forgiveness

Forgiveness prepares us for end of suffering it also requires us to refrain from judging others and surrendering ourselves by lettinimagesg it go.  When we let go of the fear and choose to forgive, we create a shift in our perceptions and create more miracles in our life.

Ask yourself what do you have to learn from the experience? What do you need to forgive? Maybe you need to forgive yourself.  Holding onto grudges for past hurts can only cause more suffering.  We carry thoughts of hatred because we blame others for bad things happening to us.  We refuse to accept what is happening to us, the way we process the behaviour of others. The other person shouldn’t be to blame, it’s the way we have reacted to the experience which is causing us suffering.

So, how can you forgive when the pain is so deep and you were so hurt by the experience?  Firstly, trust that you can forgive.  Don’t resist it, surrender to the experience and let it go.  Be grateful for the experience. What can you learn from the experience of forgiving someone for something that has hurt you?

By making the first steps to forgiveness you will feel liberated and free from the prison we have created within ourselves.  By mastering the art of forgiveness we can create more miracles in our life.  Forgive yourself more importantly for holding onto the grudges or past pain.  Learn from your mistakes.  The only way you will be free from suffering and live your life to its fullest potential is if you start mastering the art of forgiveness.

To forgive is to remove the anger, judgements and bitterness to create more space for love, compassion and kindness.  By doing this you experience more freedom in your life by opening up your heart.

Take out your journal and answer the following questions:

1. Who do you need to forgive?

2. What is the lesson from this experience of past hurt?

How to forgive?

List your top 5 grudges or past pains where you need to forgive. Say the following words out loud to yourself
This fear is not serving me, I forgive and choose love instead. 

Write a self-forgiveness letter to yourself, but instead of focusing on the negative side of the past pain, fill it with love and compassion and what you have learned from the experience.

Use this affirmation from Gabrielle Bernstein’s May Cause Miracles:

I forgive myself for choosing fear. Today I choose love instead.

 

 

 

I would love to hear how you went with the exercises, please post a comment below or on the Facebook page.