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How to create calm in your busy morning routine

Does this sound familiar?

Your alarm goes off and you automatically think of your never ending to-do list.

A sense overwhelm overpowers you.

Your heart races and you feel panic in your body. 

Coffee goes on and the hustle begins; get ready for work, prepare lunch for you and the kids, get the kids ready, drop them off to school, arrive at work.

….All the while you are thinking of everything you need to do.

Exhaustion has kicked in by the time you arrive at work so you buy another coffee and attempt to get something done.

You can’t quieten down your mind and so you just rush through as many things as possible aware that you are making mistakes along the way. 

Lunchbreak, what is that? You eat at your desk so you can pick-up the kids on time from after school care. 

Kids, tick! Dinner, tick! Get ready to do it all again tomorrow, tick!

The day is done and you consider sitting down to relax but you know you need to get some sleep.

So you lie there. Tired but wired because of feeling so overwhelmed and exhausted. You begin worrying you won’t get everything done and as a result you stay awake for most of the night.

This never ending cycle continues day after day after day…

Honey, take a deep breath…

Inhale through the nose and exhale with a big sigh out your mouth. This blog post will give you some simple strategies and tools to help you create more calm in your busy morning routine and throughout your day.

Breathe baby breathe

During your busy routine, ground through your feet and place your hands on your belly, then as you breathe in let your belly expand, and as your breathe out let your belly come back in.  This breathing technique is simple and easy to do and you can carry it throughour your busy routine from morning to night.

Benefits

  • Reduces negative stress by lowering the stress hormone – cortisol
  • Improves quality of sleep
  • Improves mental focus and concentration
  • Improves your mood by elevating the ‘feel good’ hormone

Put on some music

Music is known to be uplifting and can immediately take you out of a funk or a busy mindset because it relaxes you and just takes you out of your head. Just make sure you play some good uplifting music and nothing that will create anxiety or stress.

Benefits

  • Reduces negative stress by lowering the stress hormone – cortisol
  • Improves your mood by elevating the ‘feel good’ hormone

Meditate for Calmer Mind

Meditation is the best thing you can do to help calm the mind it has amazing benefits when practiced regularly.

Benefits

  • Reduced anxiety, tension and stress
  • Increased calm and pleasure
  • Enhanced immune function
  • Increased vitality and energy

Meditation changed my life

How to start a meditation practice

Mindfulness

Mindfulness is the practice of bringing your attention to the internal and external experiences occurring in the present moment. it’s a form of meditation and you can do this when you in the midst of your busy routine.  When you are washing the dishes, just be mindful and present with it or when you are washing your hair experience the internal and external experiences you are having with the process of washing your hair. Become more present in everything you do and you will pracitce mindfulness. This is a great practice to start doing even if it is when you are brushing your teeth as a first step and then gradually build until you start becoming more mindful and present throughout your day.

Mindfulness provides many benefits, including the ability to reduce stress, rise above self-limiting beliefs, improve focus, develop self-awareness, facilitate calmness, and handle difficult emotions such as frustration, resentment, boredom and anxiety.

 

All of these practices will not only help calm your mind and help you become grounded, but it will take the havoc out of that busy routine we go through everyday.

So, tell me in the comments below, if this blog post was useful and what you are most likely to start implementing from today.   Remember, to see the real benefits of any of these practices, you need to practice them consistently for at least 21-40 days.

 

 

My letter to a new mum

You have just been on the biggest transformation of your life in your pregnancy, now you are a new mum – congratulations! It’s such an amazing journey. There will be times where you just want to cry, but the rewards outweigh the frustrations.  You will feel exhausted, emotional and you may even start to worry about returning to work. You may start feeling depressed or suffer from anxiety.  BUT there are so many rewards, the first smile, the first time they look at you. Ahhh I remember those first moments, like it was only yesterday, now my son is 6 years old.

The one thing I wish I did when I became a new mum was to enjoy every single moment. Being present in each and every moment is the biggest gift of all.  These moments, even though they sound frustrating and stressful, they are just moments in our life. Your baby will grow, and move onto the next stage and before you know it they are at big school and not wanting to cuddle their mummy in public.newmumrecovery476x290.jpg.aspx

Trust your intuition – don’t listen to friends or family who place judgements on the way you should be mothering. Listen to your heart and follow your intuition – it’s always right.

Don’t worry too much.  Remember everything will always work out.  You may start to worry that you are losing your identity of who you were before you became a mother. I know this all too well. I started lose myself as a new mum. I didn’t know who I was anymore. I knew I needed to do something to make a difference by helping mums and serving others – that’s why I created MummaBliss.

Take time out for yourself. Make sure you spend 10 minutes per day to yourself doing something that feels good for you. Self-care practices are important to make sure you nurture the nurturer. Check out Daily Self-care for all mums. By doing this, you will have more energy to be a loving mother, wife, daughter, sister and friend.  Don’t feel guilty for taking some time out to yourself – it’s important. Always put yourself first.  Be gentle on yourself. Practice a heart breathing and meditation on a daily basis:

Bring your awareness up to the centre of your chest – to your Heart – your chakra of self-development and unconditional love or also called Anahata. Gently breathe into your Heart, letting it soften and expand on your breath. Invite the colour green. Bathe your heart centre with nourishment, renewal, healing. Say the words “I am loved”. “I am love” “I allow myself to give and receive love freely”“I am nourished by the power of love”. Practice this everyday for 40 days and notice miracles flow into your life, especially more love and more love for yourself.

I recently created a Mummy Manifesto, which is everything I believe in to be a happy, present and mindful mum. Here’s some of the quotes from the Mummy Manifesto – pin it up on your fridge as a good reminder.  I would love to hear your thoughts on the Mummy Manifesto. I poured my heart and soul into this project. It is something that I am very passionate about and believe it is the secret to motherhood. 
Begin your day with gratitude and love
Set a daily intention
Trust your intuition
List 3 things to be grateful for before bed
Be patient
Connect with your body
Spend 10 mins per day on yourself
Please tell me your thoughts. Did this resonate with you as a new mum?

How to become more present in daily life

I get often asked for tips on becoming more present in day-to-day life.  I used to be a person that lived in my head continuously, looking externally for answers instead of looking into my own inner wisdom for answers.  As I became more present in day-to-day life and interactions with people, I noticed I was looking for answers externally. Instead, I was more in tune with my heart, my intuition which was where I held my true desires on how I wanted to live my life.

Answer the following questions:

  • How do you want to feel when you wake-up in the morning?
  • How do you want to feel as a mum?
  • How do you want to feel when you go to bed at night?
  • How do you want to feel everyday in your life?
  • How do you want to spend every moment?
  • How would it feel to be more present in your life?
  • What would change in your life if you were more present?

Now, in order to become more present in your day-to-day life, you need to understand how you want to feel. If you want to feel more present, you need to do regular practices that will help ground you to become present.  You can’t get stuck into the stories, especially driven by the ego.  The ego will always try to control situations and get you  unstuck. You need to tune into your heart by bringing your awareness to your heart chakra.

My favourite way to get present is to ground through my feet, I bring my awareness and attention to the inside of the soles of my feet. I keep bringing my awareness until I feel the tingling sensation, which is just energy moving through your body to the soles of your feet. You can direct this energy to anywhere in your body by bringing your awareness and attention to that body part.

Tips on applying this practice in a everday basis:

  • Set an alarm on your phone every hour to remind you to bring your awareness and attention to your feet
  • Have the word present throughout your house and workplace to remind you
  • Create a vision board with the word present and images that represent the word

How would your life be different if you became more present in  your life? What would change? Post a comment in the comments below and also how you will bring this to life in your own life to become more present.

5 Tips to Being a Mindful Parent

Did you know that we think of 70,000 thoughts per day?  When I first heard this I was astounded by the figure but then I monitored what I thought for a day and I could see how it could equate to that amount. We live such busy lives and often forget about living in the moment, becoming more mindful.

 

So, what is mindfulness? It’s simply bringing awareness to the present moment without judgement.  I thoroughly recommend watching the movie (or read the book) ‘Way of the Peaceful Warrior’ by Dan MacMillan.

Below are my 5 sure tips to being a mindful parent:

  1. Don’t rush. Next time you are giving your child a bath, don’t look at the clock. Take the time to sit with them and play with their toys or talk to them about their day.  Don’t bring your phone with you. Simply be there for them.
  2. Be present.  Simply be there for your child, listen intently and when you are spending time with them.  Be fully present with your child.
  3. Be patient.  Maybe your child isn’t achieving milestones quick enough or they do something that upsets you.  Next time this happens, close your eyes and take a few deep breaths.
  4. You are their teacher.  They will take on your beliefs and habits into their adult life. Think about what you say before you say it.  They are learning from you.  Be the best teacher you can be so they can have the best start in life.
  5. Have fun.  When was the last time you actually sat down on the floor with your child and played with their toys or got out a game to play?  Spend some time with your child and have quality time and fun.  I know this is hard, I am a mother too. I try to at least make time to read books before my son goes to bed to give him some solid time with just me, even if it is just cuddles on the lounge :)

Remember, being present means shifting your awareness to the present moment. Forget about what happened yesterday or the day or what’s happening tomorrow. It’s about NOW.

Leave a comment below with what gets in your way of spending quality time (completely present) with your children? What distractions get in your way? ie. Social media, cooking, chores, work, checking emails?

Stay tuned for future blog posts on how to create self-care practices during your pregnancy or as a new mum so you have more energy to give your child your fullest attention and presence.

Love

Michelle xx